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The First Step!

Why do we doubt ourselves?

Why do we stop?

Our own worst enemy!

Don’t be afraid!

“Faith is taking the first step, even when you don’t see the whole staircase!”

— Martin Luther King Jnr.

If your reading this you may potentially be lost on the net, looking for some motivation to start “something” that’s crossed your mind several times before. It’s likely “something” you’ve always wanted to do but never made the time to get around to, or, have made efforts to do in the past, eventually giving up along the way. If any of the aforementioned are true, don’t fret, your not alone, I can certainly relate, as can billions more. One thing I know for sure is that if you are reading (reading and relating emotionally to be precise, bots can read too.), then your a human being and as a human being, emotional struggle is a very common characteristic. Self doubt is a blight on the mind of humankind across the globe and it’s an internal voice that stifles our dreams, ambitions and life goals, to the point where we just stop . Remember that rejection is not a measure of your self worth!

A major reason as to why people end up doubting themselves, is as a result of another human trait, which is the not so wonderful are of comparing ourselves to others. You’ve heard it and said it before, “Look at Joe Bloggs over there, he’s faster, stronger and more talented than me, why should I even try, I’ll never be up to that standard”. When what you really should be focusing on, is working on becoming as fast & as strong, as you possibly can, while working on all aspects of your trade, to increase your capabilities. The self comparison leads to a defeatist attitude settling in on the mind. We end up avoiding doing things we truely want to do, all due to a fear of not being up to the “required/perceived standard” This type of attitude not only buries our dreams but also any chance of even getting remotely close to those dreams. If you read an article, case study, a chapter of a book every day for 1 hour on a specific topic or discipline and just think if you did this every day for one year. That’s 365 hours (366 in an earthly annual cycle, with an extra day in Feb for the smart asses) a year of education on that subject, just over 15 days for the sake of one hour. Who knows you could get 2 hours in on a Saturday with more free time available, end story is it all adds up. You improve you achieve you get closer to you’re targets not somebody else’s. The more time you put into something the better you get. Increase in input results in increased output. Efficiency determines the level of output for the applied input. Long story short, forget Joe Bloggs, start doing you and surpass!

Quitting is an action associated with negative connotation. Nobody wants to be termed as a quitter but we all have & will start things and stop them. A key factor in people quitting on their goals is that they don’t see results quick enough. For me one of the best example of this is the January surge in the number of people at a gym. People are full of optimism at the outset of a new year and are in the frame of mind to start running on the treadmill, swim some laps of the pool, do some resistance training. However as the weeks go by and February approaches the surge starts to recede and by mid February it’s the regulars again filling the gym floor on a nightly basis. Patcience is a very important trait to succeed at anything in life. There’s a reason William Langford coined the phrase, “Patcience is a virtue” in his poem “Piers Plowman”, which he derived from the Latin expression, “maxima enim, patientia virtus” (patience is the greatest virtue). Its not a new day sentiment of positivity it’s been around for a hell of a long time. 3 weeks of bench pressing and no pecs, don’t stop, work harder, keep going until you see the results of your endeavours and just think what you could be a year from now. 365 days may seem like a long time but how quickly do those 12 month periods go by?

As human beings one of our favourite pastimes is self sabotage. Now, a lot of people would associate the word favourite with positive vibes but self sabotage so far short of positive it’s like the tennis ball in the bottom of the net directly off a first service. Self sabotage is internal, it’s in the mind, it’s the voice telling you that “You Can’t”, asking you “what are you doing?”. Telling you “you’ll never be good enough and it’s all time wasted”. Typically this will have the knock on effect of lower levels of motivation, decreased mood which will result in a decrease in belief. Ultimately leading to the negative voices winning out and we give up on our dream. So we inflict pain and suffering on ourselves in the long run, for no apparent reason other than allowing negative thoughts become reality in the short term. When you put this in perspective it’s quite absurd to think that we inflict this pain on ourselves and for the sake of what? What if Tiger Woods had stopped when he hit one too many balls into a water hazard? If Mick Jagger hit that one bum note to many? Keep going! You never know where you might end up!

FEAR! The single biggest factor as to why people do not achieve their goals and dreams. Fear is the number one killer of ambition. For me fear has been the biggest obstacle to overcome in life and it’s likely an unachievable task. Do not lose faith however, fear can be managed and controlled, just as anything associated with the mind. Fear of failure can drive an individual in the right direction if you have determination but will eventually eventually hinder your progress. Fear is an emotion and as such prevents the mind from working optimally. Fear of doing is the evil sibling of fear of failure. This type of fear typically leads to nothing. Nothing in the sense of doing nothing. Passing through life without any real achievement because the mind won’t even allow you to try. So much negativity has been built up in the mind that it is paralyzed. What are you afraid of? Face up to fear and use it in your favour. Know that overcoming grows strength. When we face fear and keep coming back for more, the fear eventually resides and dissipates. Fear is the dense fog on the winding country road that leads to the promised land. Navigate the road under such conditions and you could end up finding that “something” at th end of the journey. Just like the staircase, when we start the journey the goal may be unclear but once we start the ascent and we keep going the likelihood of finding what’s at the top increases exponentially when compared to remaining at the bottom, trepidatious of what lays ahead. Life’s a struggle, embrace it, live it, don’t sit back and be a passenger.

Stop Procrastinating!

“Procrastination is one of the most common and deadliest of diseases and its toll on success and happiness is heavy”

Wayne Gretzky

Procrastination, Let’s face it we all do it, I’m battling it right now as I attempt to right this blog, that anxiousness of the work ahead, the little voice that hangs around telling you to switch on the television and simply put the task at hand off until tomorrow. As we all know though, tomorrow becomes next week, next week becomes next month, next month becomes next year, you get the picture right. Next thing you know its 5 years later and that thought inside your mind hasn’t become a reality, it remains a thought. It’s time to beat up that little voice, beat it so bad it is afraid of you. Violent sentiments right there, trust me though, a little bit of tough love goes along way. However don’t confuse beating that niggling voice with self criticism. Any thing related to self criticism is not the path to go down and in fact being to self critical may result in a rise in our old friend (the “r” is optional depending on your interpretation) procrastination. I can certainly relate to that.

That dreaded feeling.

WHY DO WE PROCRASTINATE?

As with all problems in life, it is difficult to come up with a decent solution without first questioning why that particular problem exists. The great Albert Einstein once said “If I had an hour to solve a problem I’d spend 55 minutes thinking about the problem and five minutes thinking about solutions.” Many of us do not have the same level of patience as the great Albert and 55 minutes of fretting about a problem just isn’t what we want to expose ourselves too. We want quick solutions to ensure the brain is rewarded with instant gratification, which typically results in a rash or poorly thought out decision and as we all know poor decisions result in poorer outcomes, which starts the cycle again. As humans our emotions play a big role in driving our thoughts and what we think is directly affected by our chemical makeup, that’s how we are constructed and to be fair it makes us who we are, it gives us our personality. Procrastination takes over our minds all too regularly, it’s our coping mechanism, it’s how we avoid tasks that apply extra stress to the brain & body. We protect ourselves from tasks that will make us feel anxious, make us feel a little uncomfortable and push us out of our “happy place”. If you’re reading this though you’ve likely come to realise that the realm of procrastination isn’t a happy place whatsoever. It’s a bit of an upstart, something like a 6 year old who can’t get their own way in the sweet shop (to the Americans and Canadians thats Candy, The Irishness will never leave me :P), doing everything to convince the parent (in this case you) to get what they want. The rebellious voice who convinces you to watch the next episode of Game of Thrones (for the third time) (I like using brackets), instead of getting in that swim you had planned. We never lose our inner child, I’m sure some of us still refuse to go to bed early. No parents nagging us all these years later but still the same end result to put off a task the weak part of us simply doesn’t want to do. There it is the “W” word weak, the uttering of such a word raises such negative comments but is at the core of why we procrastinate. Weakness is of course subjective but there is in us all, even the so called “achievers”. For me weakness in the human psyche is similar to the battle between good and evil, the angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other. We are free to decide whos counsel we take when the angel and demon sit upon the shoulder and try to convince the jury of synapses in your lovely skull to side with their wishes for you. “Weakness” and “Strength” do the same. The brave and bold “Strength” convincing you to push yourself to achieve those dreams that surface in your head, “read that book”, “Practice that swimming stroke”, Pump some iron” (as you’ll come to learn my personal favourite, reading will feature too) “Write that blog”. The lazy, hunched over, cowering “Weakness” persuading you not to listen to “Strength”, “You don’t need to do that leg session”, “You already know enough Calculus, the right questions are destined to come up on the exam”. You get my point right, we all procrastinate but we all dream, we all have goals and the only difference between the “achievers”(subjective) and the people who fall short (also subjective) is ultimately a greater level of control, a greater level of patience, a greater resolve, “Strength!”

“Never trust your fears, they don’t know your strength!”

Athena Singh.

NOT ALL PROCRASTINATION OR PROCRASTINATORS ARE BORN EQUAL!

When it comes to Procrastination, different levels exist, In the same way different difficulty settings are built in to computer games. Mario’s (Remember the Super Nintendo?) decisions were made by various different people and various inputs led to a variety of contrasting, yet similar outcomes. We all remember weighing up the right time to instruct Mario to jump, so as he could clear the hazard. Press the button too early and Mario would fall into the open chasm, press the button too late and he ran right over the edge before the jump could even happen. As you can see both scenarios resulted in Mario’s demise. We sometimes react the same way when confronted with situations in day to day life, overly anxious and jumping to a conclusion much too soon, ultimately resulting in a poorly founded decision leading to negative consequences. This potentially results from a lack of belief to complete the task in the first place, a feeling of “anyway at all” will suffice, the main objective is just get it done so the stress can be removed as quickly as possible. This however can be a step in a kind of procrastination cycle. If we are dealing with a task, we need to give it the attention it deserves and suffer the pain to achieve the best result for everyone, however the desire to return to a state of procrastination consumes the individual and they want to shake the burden as quickly as possible, convincing themselves that the solution they have hastily chosen is the right one. There goes Mario plummeting to his doom, all because the individual making the decision simply couldn’t handle the discomfort. As previously mentioned, Mario will sometimes be forced to run straight over the edge without ever even jumping. The stimulus never came to warn Mario to jump and alas, too late, he has plummeted down the open chasm again. Fear prevented the jump ever happening, hesitation in the face of fear resulted in an unfavourable outcome for Mario yet again. High level procrastinators run right off the edge, never jumping, they are crippled with fear. They don’t even engage with the discomfort. This is a terribly sad state of affairs when somebody does this to themselves in real life. “Never try, Never Prosper”. Such procrastination leads to an unfulfilled life all because the “Weakness kept winning out, to the point where it could take a back seat as autopilot was engaged and “Strength” had suffered a critical amount of muscle wastage from being so underworked. Neither of the above two examples of procrastination and the procrastinators on the “Game Boys” are advisable behaviour but i’d certainly give the “jumper” more of a chance in eventually reaching their dreams under the right guidance. The “Non-Jumper” however is another level entirely and is operating in the “World Class” zone on the procrastination level options but is certainly at “Beginner Level” when it comes to task completion and is likely to stay there if not prepared to test themselves in tougher environments. The difficulty level when turned up is difficult to deal with but if you hang around long enough you’ll get comfortable and before you know it Mario will be sliding down the Castle flagpole.

CAN PROCRASTINATION BE OVERCOME?

The short answer is Yes! but it has to be worked at on a regular basis, in the same way that if your having difficulties with your free throws on the basketball court, what’s the best solution to improving and lessening those difficulties, its practice and effort. We are all capable of working to achieve a goal. Working is in or nature and I cannot stress enough how important determination and work ethic is to eliminate the impact of procrastination on your life. In fact hard work is something of the antidote when it comes to procrastination. Being lazy is a trait that comes naturally to us all, in modern day Western society its a very common option, sit back in that couch, pick up that remote control and channel hop, scroll endlessly on Instagram looking at everyones glossed up photos and stories. Don’t get me wrong you can learn a lot from watching good tv shows, news and documentaries and in the same way specifically following chosen people you may aspire too. However if you wish to stop procrastinating about the life you want and go and do something, get up and do the things you need to do to achieve the life you want. Putting in the effort to the tasks and the objectives you need to achieve what you want to achieve. Its as simple as that. For me its the gym, its nutrition, its cardio (which still shakes me when I think about it), all things I allowed to slip when following my career path as an Engineer. I’m now heading in the right direction and it makes me god damn happy I got to say, I get annoyed when I let my standards (important too) slip but know the immediate solution is getting down to the pull up bar, getting on the cross trainer, making a nutritious meal, getting in the pool, you get my point. Immediately you will feel good about yourself when you test yourself and challenge yourself, the brain rewards you. Procrastination is defeated for another day, now let’s go and do it all again tomorrow!

Introduce Yourself (Example Post)

This is an example post, originally published as part of Blogging University. Enroll in one of our ten programs, and start your blog right.

You’re going to publish a post today. Don’t worry about how your blog looks. Don’t worry if you haven’t given it a name yet, or you’re feeling overwhelmed. Just click the “New Post” button, and tell us why you’re here.

Why do this?

  • Because it gives new readers context. What are you about? Why should they read your blog?
  • Because it will help you focus you own ideas about your blog and what you’d like to do with it.

The post can be short or long, a personal intro to your life or a bloggy mission statement, a manifesto for the future or a simple outline of your the types of things you hope to publish.

To help you get started, here are a few questions:

  • Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?
  • What topics do you think you’ll write about?
  • Who would you love to connect with via your blog?
  • If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

You’re not locked into any of this; one of the wonderful things about blogs is how they constantly evolve as we learn, grow, and interact with one another — but it’s good to know where and why you started, and articulating your goals may just give you a few other post ideas.

Can’t think how to get started? Just write the first thing that pops into your head. Anne Lamott, author of a book on writing we love, says that you need to give yourself permission to write a “crappy first draft”. Anne makes a great point — just start writing, and worry about editing it later.

When you’re ready to publish, give your post three to five tags that describe your blog’s focus — writing, photography, fiction, parenting, food, cars, movies, sports, whatever. These tags will help others who care about your topics find you in the Reader. Make sure one of the tags is “zerotohero,” so other new bloggers can find you, too.